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Aug


723757 womans midsection 8 Different Strokes:  Everyone Is Built Differently, Learn Your PartnerThe idea that all men and all women are built the same is silly. Of course the basic anatomical ideas are the same, but each person is just a little bit different. If you’re with a new partner, it’s very important that you learn what he or she wants and needs. Some people are smaller or larger than others, and that’s true of the size of a woman’s vagina as well as the size of a man’s penis. Some people also like things more aggressive and others prefer to remain gentle and take things slowly. If you’re comfortable enough to have sex with your new partner you should be comfortable enough to talk to that person about his or her needs, as well. Communication can be very sexy, and it can make things go much better during that first encounter and all of the encounters that come after.

It’s a great thing to be able to talk openly and honestly with your partner about sex, because it shows maturity, and it also shows that you care about your partner and what he or she has to say. Feelings do matter, even if some people are only interested in the physical gratification. For those who are in relationships or who just want to make sure that they actually please the people they get involved with, remembering that everyone is different can help them along. Just because your last partner liked something doesn’t mean that your new partner will, and keeping that in mind can keep things in the bedroom much, much better.

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18
Aug


The female body is capable of ejaculation in a similar way to the male’s, through over thirty small channels, and will do so repeatedly if correctly stimulated.

Shelia Jeffreys, a lesbian feminist historian, once wrote that female ejaculation was simply an “invention” of the male imagination.

The Datoro peoples of Uganda have a puberty rite called “kachapati” – literally “spray the wall” in which the older women teach the younger females how to spray out their ejaculatatory fluids in rhythmic bursts.

Sometimes people disagree about female ejaculation. Hippocrates, the “father” of modern medicine, and Aristotle, a well-known thinker, didn’t mess about. They knew women could squirt too. And how.

True to form the Victorians didn’t play ball. For instance, there was a man called Kraft-Ebbing (who wasn’t Flowing). Although he accepted the existence of female ejaculation, he believed it occurred only in women with neurasthenia (a disease).

In Victorian England bodily secretions (especially sexual ones) awoke feelings of horror in men and women alike. In the terminology of the eminent psychoanalyst Wilhelm Reich the prevailing climate was “sex negative”. Female ejaculation, which had previously been regarded as a harmless and entirely natural source of female joy, was now reduced to the symptoms of hysterical illness.

Female ejaculation was now associated with notions of sickness and disease. Once labelled as dirt it was only a matter of time before it was swept under the carpet; to the extent that many sexologists continue to deny its existence. As recently as 1982, Masters, Johnson and Kolandy continued to refer to female ejaculation as “an erroneous belief” and suggest that the fluid could be the result of “urinary stress incontinence”. Shannon Bell, in The Hysterical Male suggests that because female ejaculation is all about pleasure, and that women’s pleasure has traditionally been neglected. “the knowledge of ejaculation has not been accepted and socially appropriated by professionals or the public.”

Ms. Bell goes on to remind us that “Josephine Sevely, Eve’s Secrets. A New Theory of Female Sexuality (1987), has provided us with the most comprehensive study of female ejaculation. Her theory not only sexualizes the urethra but also emphasises the simultaneous involvement of the clitoris, urethra, and vagina, which function as a single integrated sex organ. The implications of Sevely’s theory are threefold. First, a woman s sexual organ ceases to be fragmented into clitoris and vagina: it is an integrated whole composed of clitoris, urethra, and vagina. Second, this integrated whole is a multiplicity “full of things,” all alive with sensation. The [w]hole is an active [w]hole; no more clitoral activity versus vaginal passivity (presumably as in the myth of separate and distinct orgasms for vagina and clitoris). Third, the “anatomical difference” between male and female genitals upon which phallocentric culture and society is premised is challenged by an alternative construction of anatomical symmetry. Both male and female bodies have prostrate gland structures and both have the potential to ejaculate fluids during sexual stimulation. The female body, free from the limiting economy of the male psyche-libido, reveals physiological differences within anatomical symmetry. The female body can ejaculate fluid from thirty-one ducts; with stimulation can ejaculate repeatedly; can ejaculate more fluid than the male body ; and can enjoy a plurality of genital pleasure sites: the clitoris, urethra, vagina, the vaginal entrance, the roof of the vagina, the bottom of the vagina, and the cervix.”

Patriarchy seeks to control, to make predictable, to repress the spontaneous and to dominate. But total order equals stagnation and death. Chaos theory shows us the one constant in this multiverse is the chaotic. This seemingly solid magazine is in reality made up mostly of empty space in and through which atoms and sub-atomic particles are whizzing and weaving in a totally unpredictable dance of creation. Patriarchy is on the wane and the Goddess is rising once again. Let us shag freely and ejaculate together to the strains of the coming new age.

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18
Aug


Okay gentlemen. Time to stop reading this and to turn to something more appropriate. Female ejaculation has been appropriated by male doctors and researchers enough as it is. Not to mention those men who view the female body as something to conquer in bed and see giving pleasure (be it in the form of intercourse, orgasm or now ejaculation) purely in the selfish terms of their own status. Bearing this in mind we present the recommendations of Shannon Bell below.

STEP ONE: Find what has come to be known as your “G-Spot”. But don’t call it that, because the G is named after Grafenberg, a man. (If we may offer a suggestion, how about the “E-Spot”… E for ejaculate, ecstasy, emancipation and so on…) It is the muscle and spongy tissue that is around that part of the urethra that is inside the vagina. It begins about a finger (more or less) inside your vagina and is about a finger wide. If the muscles that go around your vagina. have not been used much, they have to be built up (if you have trouble finding the PC (pubococcygeus) muscles, try stopping and starting the flow of urine next time you pee. This uses the PC muscles, and is useful for men to do too). The muscles can be built up by doing contractions; contracting the top of your vagina against the bottom and releasing. This is fun and you could have an orgasm or two. You could start by doing twenty five. . . three times a day for one week, then fifty three times a day, then one hundred (easily done subtly, for example in lessons, waiting for the bus, reading Scrapie etc.)

STEP TWO: Using whichever hand you usually masturbate with, take two or three fingers and rub them against the part of your urethra inside your vagina. Press hard and notice the feeling which may seem like having to urinate. This is a signal that you are ready to ejaculate. Now, place the middle finger slightly below the external part of your urethra and begin to masturbate the same way you rub your clitoris. (‘Begin with a firm slow up and down motion, increasing speed and pressure as I approach ejaculation). As you are masturbating you will notice that the two ducts, one at each side of your urethra, feel full and perhaps somewhat painful. There are twenty-nine ducts scattered over the top of your vagina and once you locate the body sensation you will be able to locate them on your lower abdomen. They are located in a pyramid from your clitoris to just above your ovaries.

STEP THREE: Take your hand and press down on one or more of the ducts from the outside. Push your urethra out and push, the way you do when you urinate. A crucial aspect of ejaculating is that it is necessary to PUSH OUT Liquid will come shooting out of your urethra in a steady stream or a jet. I can ejaculate only in positions in which I can push my entire pelvis up and out; on my knees with legs a foot and a half apart; on my back with my pelvis raised up; weight distributed on my feet and shoulders, and knees at least two feet apart; and, squatting or standing, again with feet far enough apart so I can push my urethra up and out. If your partner is female, you may well be able to help her ejaculate. As you stimulate her interior vaginal wall and the exterior part of her urethra, get her to push out when ready. You will both feel the glands and ducts around the urethra swelling and filling with liquid. If the muscles have atrophied, as mine had, contraction exercises may be required.

What ejaculation will do for you sexually is to give you a powerful pleasurable kinesthetic, visual, and auditory experience – a total body experience. You can repeat it almost indefinitely once your body awakens to it.

EJACULATE: The ejaculate changes in amount, colour, odour, and taste during your menstrual cycle. At ovulation the fluid is very hot (it corresponds to your vaginal temperature), thick, yellow, and pungent. Following ovulation the fluid is thinner, there is more of it, it is clear, and pleasantly salty. It remains this way until bleeding starts, at which point it is again thick for the first day or two. It then returns to being clear.

HEALTH: I have found that ejaculating during ovulation – because it reduces vaginal temperature – reduces yeast infections that result from the increase in vaginal temperature at ovulation.

SAFER SEX: The same safe sex rules apply to girl cum as to boy cum: keep it out of all mucous membranes and your blood stream; keep it out of your partner’s eyes.

So there we have it; a do-it-yourself guide to reclaiming your body. We should like to end on an empirical note by confirming the existence of female ejaculation. We have come across women ejaculating (and had them cum across us). Make no mistake. It is an experience we unreservedly recommend.

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