Archive for July, 2010

28
Jul


How can you get closer to the one you’re with? By understanding the many ways to ignite intimacy.

Intimacy takes many forms: verbal, physical, sexual, spiritual, says Klein. A relationship is all the more powerful — and intimate — when it features more than one of these forms.

Begin your exploration of intimacy with the verbal variety. There are two revealing questions you must first ask of yourself, and then a third you must ask of a loved one.

Once you’ve considered your feelings about getting close, you’re ready to hear the truth about intimacy. Everyone from Oprah to your best friend to Aunt Mabel has a different definition of it, and they’re not always right.

After you put the myths about intimacy aside, you’re ready to draw your partner closer. Spend time getting to know your partner’s dreams and desires. Learn to nurture your relationship, and you’ll keep the sparks flying.

Enough talking. Isn’t sex a part of intimacy? Our readers want to know and we have the answer.

If there’s one thing sure to spoil intimacy, it’s jealously. While occasional pangs of the stuff are natural in most loving relationships,persistent jealously will put out the flame in hearts once afire.

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21
Jul


There’s something unusual about Richard Brent. It’s not that he’s been married for 16 years, nor that he doesn’t drink or smoke, or that he’s 40 and still sexually very fit. It’s neither his performance, nor his prowess that make him the subject of this story as well as a document of scientific research. It is rather the uniqueness of his experience of sex that makes Brent unusual.

For as long as he can remember, Richard Brent has been multiorgasmic.

Richard Brent:

I think I started masturbating when I was 4. I didn’t ejaculate, but I thought Hey, this feels good, why stop, let’s have another one. I mean, it’s like a roller-coaster ride. Why get off if you don’t have to? I didn’t realize until my early 20s that it was any different for anyone else.

Many men covet a woman’s natural capacity to have more than one orgasm. Some envy it so much that they pursue techniques promising to bring them to orgasm without ejaculating. Most involve isolating the pelvic muscles and squeezing them right at the point of ejaculation. Does mastering these techniques make a man multiorgasmic?

Richard Brent: “Erection and Ejaculation Are Two Different Things”

I used to listen to guys talk about how many times they could get it up in a night. When they came around to me, I said, Do you mean how many times can I come, or how many erections can I have? Because for me that’s two different things.

Brent calls the multiple orgasms he experiences uninhibited pleasure. He uses no techniques or tricks to stop himself from ejaculating as he experiences orgasm. A full ejaculation follows each and every orgasm. Brent’s sexual experience challenges the traditional concept of the male refractory period or down time, during which a man loses his erection and must wait before he can perform again sexually.

Richard Brent: “I Don’t Have to Work at It”

It’s not the same thing if you have to work at it. I’ve tried all the techniques and I know it’s not the same. All those methods involve interrupting pleasure. Men don’t like interrupting their pleasure. All men would rather they weren’t limited by the Male Refractory Period (MRP), and were capable of effortless multiple orgasm, possessing the same sexual potential and capacity as do females! After several orgasms, I get a natural high, probably from the release of endorphins.

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14
Jul


According to two recent studies, millions of Americans use one or more sex toys. We’re talking vibrators, dildos and butt plugs, as well as blindfolds, handcuffs and nipple clamps. We’ll leave whips and leather underwear for another discussion.

Like all technology, sex toys are an extension of the body. They are hands, tongues and genitalia that are bigger and stronger, and never tire. They are tools that help us give pleasure to ourselves and to each other.

Sex toys can be equally great for partner sex and masturbation. Any sex that can be improved by something that probes, stimulates, squeezes or alters sensation can be enhanced by a sex toy.

Unfortunately, some would-be users are self-conscious about feeling they need assistance. Others are concerned that their partner will feel inadequate. But this is like feeling self-critical that you need a comfortable chair to enjoy a movie. Our shyness about using sex toys really expresses the shame we feel about admitting we’re sexual in a sex-negative culture.

It’s no illusion. Until recently, for example, most national magazines refused vibrator advertising &3151; including Ms. magazine. And only last year, the state of Alabama criminalized the production or sale of “sexual devices marketed primarily for the stimulation of human genitals.”

Why the controversy about a 5-inch battery-powered piece of buzzing plastic? Sex toys are about sexual pleasure, not about reproduction or romantic love (although many romantic, loving people and couples use them).

A vibrator or nipple clamp in your hand is the smoking gun of pleasure — you simply can’t deny that getting off is exactly what you have in mind.

So sex toys are a vehicle for sexual empowerment; for learning about our eroticism, for pleasuring ourselves, for encouraging our partners to feel things more deeply. They are, literally, the way we take our sexuality into our own hands. No wonder so many authorities frown on sex toys and make us hide them under the covers. Using a sex toy is, after all, a political act.

And it feels damn good, too.

Tips:

  • Talk to your partner about your interest in sex toys. Make the conversation fun, not scary.
  • Remember, we use toys because we enjoy them, not because we “need to.”
  • To find a source for your sex toys, search the Web (there are dozens of choices).

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