People have a variety of reasons for not communicating about sex. These include lack of vocabulary, feeling intimidated, anxiety and hostility.
One reason that women frequently give is “I don’t want to bruise his male ego.” To that I say, ladies, bruise away.
Information is critical to sexual satisfaction. Men need to know where and how you like to be touched, what your different sounds (and your silence) mean, when you’re ready, when you’re uninterested and when you want more.
Somehow, many women have gotten the idea that men can’t stand to get this information from them. They think mind reading, trial and error, or even ignorance is preferable.
Granted, some men can’t stand to admit that there’s anything they don’t know about sex. But most men will tell you they’re eager to know more about their partner’s body and sexuality. These guys are dying to know what makes a woman experience desire, arousal and satisfaction.
How can you convey this information? Words are great, of course. Some people prefer to talk in bed. “Honey, I’d love this.” Or “Bob, I’d prefer that slower.” Perhaps you feel more comfortable talking at another time, like while driving: “You know, Juan, when you put your fingers inside me, some lube would make it even nicer.”
Nonverbal communication works well too, as long as both partners understand it. So put your hand on his and move it the way you want it, or gently take his hand away from a place you don’t like it and put it somewhere you do. Or sigh when he licks you just right. But if you find these gestures don’t work, talking is probably required.
And what of the fragile male ego? There’s no need to be mean or insensitive when you communicate. Focus on the positive by describing what you like more than what you don’t. And assume that your mate wants to know how to make sex more rewarding for both of you. If he doesn’t, you have a much bigger problem than lack of orgasm or unsatisfying sexual technique.
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Male orgasm, unlike female orgasm, is considered to be one of the simplest things on earth. Indeed, men, unlike women rarely discuss such hot topics as “How to achieve orgasm” and they never try to define what type of orgasm they achieve, as male orgasm is just orgasm and it cannot be divided into types (unlike female orgasm that can be vaginal, clitoral, G-spot and even extra genital).
Nevertheless, male orgasm is not as simple as it seems.
1. Many Various Organs Are Responsible For Male Orgasm, According To Sexologists.
These organs are as follows: penis, prostate, seminal vesicles and seminal hillocks. Only collaboration of these organs provide climax!
2. Rare Orgasms Increase Risk Of Breast Cancer
This was revealed by Greek physicians. They have found a direct connection between frequency of sex life and risk of breast cancer in men. Of course, men have this disease very rarely, however, they should not forget about the fact that rare orgasms decrease the level of male hormone testosterone. Low level of testosterone increases the risk of breast cancer. Regular sex life prevents many diseases and contributes to better health
3. World Record – 14 Orgasms In A Day
Italian porn actor Rocco Sifferdi is justly considered to be a world sex champion. He managed to make love to 14 women in a day and with each of them he had an orgasm that was registered by observers. Rocco will have to break his own record if he wants to remain the best. An anonymous dare-devil has already claimed he is going to break the hot Italian man’s record through achieving orgasms with 20 women in a day!
4. Male Orgasm Can Be Controlled
Orgasm is preceded by pre-orgasm: during these minutes the penis is very hard and the man experiences something similar to tickling in urethra. This sensation reminds of desire to urinate. If at this moment the man stops intercourse and thinks about something that has nothing to do with sex (for instance about football), his sexual arousal weakens. Thus the man has a chance to delay orgasm and to give his partner a chance to climax!
5. Men Fake Orgasm
For some reason women think that only they pretend to have orgasm and that men never do that since they achieve orgasm much easier than women. This is not true. According to British sociologists 23 percent of British men regularly fake orgasm. Canadian sociologist have even more shocking data: they say that 43 percent of men from time to time pretend to achieve orgasm in bed!
6. There Are Some Certain Signs That Allow To Define Whether A Man Fakes Orgasm
Of course, the main sign that your man did not cum is absence of sperm. No matter how loud he moaned and groaned, absence of ejaculation shows that most probably he did not cum. The man can say that he learned to have “dry” orgasms, however such ability is a very rare phenomena.
One more sign – he tries to get rid of condom so that you could not see how he does that, especially if you usually have to remind him that used condom should not be left behind the bed.
7. Reasons For Faking Orgasm
Men fake orgasm for various reasons. The first reason is stress. Stress might not prevent a man from having erection, but it can prevent him from having orgasm.
The other reason is bad foreplay. In spite of common opinion that only women need foreplay, men do need some time to get turned on enough before the encounter, especially if he is older than thirty. Sometimes they do not manage to get aroused enough and have to pretend so as not to disappoint the partner.
8. Almost 50 Percent Of Men Groan And Moan When Achieve Orgasm
About 20 percent experience orgasm in complete silence, 10 percent often start pinching, biting and even crying. Some even swear with enjoyment!
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This is the lubricant that is able to warm your erogenous zones and make your love plays hotter.
It heats up on contact with skin, with blowing or rubbing the erogenous zones you apply the lube on.
Advantages from using Warming Lubricants
There are the following advantages that the warming lubricant may deliver:
1. heightening physical sensitivity
2. intensifying sexual pleasure
3. creating wonderful unusual sensations
4. making the sexy play hotter and more passionate
Except all these effects, warming lubricant is a perfect non-toxic long-lasting liquid providing the gliding pleasure for both partners. It is latex condoms and sex toys compatible.
But you should always remember that there are some precautions in application:
2. yeast and other infections
3. high skin sensitivity
Warming lubricants contain a certain amount of glycerin or other substances that will become the good food for yeast if you have it. That is why it would be more reasonable to be cured before application.
In comparison with the traditional lubes, warming lubricants have much more content of such ‘provocative’ ingredients and therefore cause the tendency of the infections to grow. This will lead to irritations, discomfort, itching and so on.
Warming lubricants may be applied to different spots for intensifying the feel. There are different lubes intended for this or that erogenous zones.
For example, water-based warming lubricants with the light warming effect are recommended to use for vaginal sex.
The vaginal skin is very tender and sensitive, thus it is better to use the lubricant with small amount of warming agents.
The silicone-based warming lubes are great for anal sex. It does not block any pores and creates the perfect gliding effect combined with warming sensations.
There is a special kind of warming lubricants intended exclusively for other erogenous zones except vaginal or anal. They contain more intensive warming agent and are too hot. Even a few drops of this lube will make your nipples burn!
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