Whether they’ve been asking questions or not, it’s time to talk with your kids about sexuality. That means talking about gender, reproduction, bodies, feelings, changes, and, of course, sex — with self or with a partner.

Regardless of their age, they’re ready. Are you?

When talking to your kids about sexuality, your goal should be far more ambitious than preventing premarital sex or pregnancy. Besides, it will be more difficult to get those messages across without first establishing values and ongoing communication.

Talking to your kids about sexuality prepares them for future relationships, and arms them with accurate information. It also allows you to help shape their sexual values and decision-making, encouraging them to think clearly about sexuality.

It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. Here are four ways to approach your kids about sex:

1. Show you’re askable.

Never punish them for asking questions. It’s fine to say, “I don’t know” or “That’s personal, I don’t like talking about that.” But angrily demanding, “Why do you want to know?” or declaring: “Only a bad girl asks questions like that,” sends a message that sexual concerns are unacceptable to you.

2. Teach that sex is OK.

Teaching kids to fear sex or its consequences creates adults who fear sex or its consequences. Besides, instilling guilt and shame in kids doesn’t reliably discourage behavior you disapprove of. On the other hand, teaching young people to treat sex with respect, and that their bodies are precious, encourages them to behave responsibly.

3. Teach values.

Don’t hesitate to share the principles by which you live — kids want that. Just make sure that you label them as values rather than fact. Talk about what you believe or what makes you feel good. Of course, this requires that you talk about sex as a normal part of life, perhaps the most important message of all.

4. Teach decision-making skills.

Regardless of their age, what kids need most of all is decision-making skills. This is especially true when they’re dealing with peer pressure, feeling they’re in love or have been using alcohol. When you aren’t there to tell them what to do, they need to know how to make healthy choices for themselves.

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When the study was published on the Internet, Beverly Whipple heard from many men claiming to share Richard Brent’s experience. Is he really that unique?

Sex Researcher Beverly Whipple

Although the subject is very unusual, I don’t think his experience is unique. Since the study, many men have contacted me asking if we’re looking for more research subjects. So, no, I don’t think it’s physiologically impossible.

Research Subject Richard Brent

I think women experience the same thing, and men just don’t understand what they’re talking about. A part of me wonders what it would be like to see how far and how high I could take it.

Sex Researcher Beverly Whipple

As far as I can tell, the research shows that men as well as women are capable of a variety of sexual responses. There isn’t just one way of responding. Another multiorgasmic man offered some advice to other men in an e-mail he sent me: There are a lot of psychological aspects to it. Men aren’t as tuned into their fantasies as women. Use your imagination to keep yourself turned on.

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Six ejaculations with the same erection.

Beverly Whipple is a professor of nursing at Rutgers University in New Jersey and president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She’s spent a good part of her career conducting research on sexual response.

In 1995, Richard Brent contacted Beverly Whipple at Rutgers about doing a scientific research study about his sexual experience.

Sex Researcher Beverly Whipple

I did the study simply to validate one person’s experience. In the past, my whole research program has been centered on validating a woman’s sexual experience. I’ve done studies on female ejaculation, orgasm from stimulation of the G spot. I’ve studied women who are able to orgasm through imagery. I thought it would be good to document a man’s experience as well.

The Parameters

The study was done in a laboratory at the College of Nursing at Rutgers University in New Jersey. Brent was hooked up to various devices such as a pupilometer, blood-pressure cuff and pulse monitor, in order to measure and record the physiological changes his body goes through from the arousal stage to orgasm. The diameter of Brent’s pupils was measured as he sat in a chair facing the pupilometer. This consists of an infared video close-up camera directed at Brent’s eye. He was instructed to look into the camera each time he had an orgasm, so that the changes in his pupil diameter could be recorded. The blood-pressure cuff on his left arm and pulse monitor attached to the big toe on his left foot collected individual data that was analyzed later.

A television and VCR with erotic material was operated via remote control. Alone in the room, Brent was observed through an observation window.

The Task at Hand

The blood-pressure cuff would inflate every two minutes. This was the signal for Brent to place his chin in the chin rest of the pupilometer. He was then required to remain still as his pupil diameter was recorded. Blood-pressure readings were recorded every two minutes throughout the experiment, and each time Brent reported he had had an orgasm. After orgasm, his pupil diameter was again recorded. During blood-pressure measurements, he was asked to rate his level of sexual arousal on a scale of 1-10. He was required to collect each ejaculation in a separate container for researchers.

The End Result

Thirty-six minutes elapsed between Brent’s first and last orgasm. Despite the distraction of the equipment and instructions, he maintained his erection throughout the experiment and achieved six orgasms with full ejaculations. The data collected displayed significant elevations of Brent’s blood pressure, heart rate and pupil diameter during orgasm.

Research subject Richard Brent:

All the books say it’s physiologically impossible. I’ve been called a liar, or a bragger. Everyone just says it’s impossible, but I know it’s not. If I could write a book, I’d be a millionaire, but there’s nothing I’ve found so far that I can attribute it to, so I figure it’s just something about me and my body that’s different.

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The Form 2 is a type of clitoral vibrator that is included in Jimmyjane’s line of Form designs. The best way to distinguish this vibrator in an array of other toys is to look for the “rabbit ears”. But don’t expect something like the protruding implement in the standard rabbit vibrator. The ears are big and of equal size. Whether you use them directly on your clitoris or press both ears directly on your labia, you can do a lot with it.

What’s so good about the Form 2 that would make someone fork over more than a hundred dollars to own it? Jimmyjane’s Form 2 clitoral vibrator is quite popular and I’ll tell you more about how I use it in this review.

Design and Usability

The design is cute and modern, and you have a choice between the hot pink and the blue variants. There body is made up of a base that you can grip easily, and two stubby “ears” or prongs where the motors are located. Like many first time users, I thought of various possibilities with this design, including the potential of putting the ears together, with my clitoris nestled in between the two vibrating motors.

Some users would probably be tempted to use it like a prong, with the tips of the ears gripping the clitoris. A good way to maximize the powerful vibrations is to place the ears over the labia and let the resulting vibration of the labia sensitize the clitoris. You can also gradually squeeze the ears around your clit or inner labia to intensify the feeling. For variety, I would hold the toy horizontally instead of vertically, and brush the ears up and down pressed against the general area of the clitoris.

Vibration Strength and Pattern

Vibrations are from the ears of the Form 2, but the controls are located along the base of the unit. There’s a button that allows the user to choose between five vibration intensities and four vibration patterns. You’ll see a power button along with the button you use to browse through modes and speeds of variations. Vibration patterns vary from soft buzzing, to thumping, and finally, to a slow grind. One feature that I found convenient is the way the unit memorizes the last setting and defaults to that one when you use it again.

The Form 2 is unique in that the vibration pattern becomes rhythmic as you continue to use it. If you prefer the low buzzing mode, the ears vibrate can simultaneously, but you can try the last vibration mode to make the vibrations to shift from one ear to another. The grinding that you feel in the last vibration mode has a randomness that feels just like oral sex. Vibration strength is decent for the first two speed levels, but the last three speed levels are insanely intense.

Smooth and Waterproof

The material that touches your skin is soft silicone that is supple and smooth. There is no metallic feel or that feeling of shock when your skin touches something rubbery or hard. It’s firm but supple, and very comfortable against your skin, even when you don’t have a lubricant. Form 2 is fully waterproof and can be submerged in water so you can take it with you inside the shower or in the bath.

Effortless Charging

To charge the Form 2, simply rest it on its charging base which in turn is plugged into a wall outlet. The only issue is that you can’t use it as soon as you get it because it has to go through overnight charging to avoid damaging the battery. This is also for prolonging the life of the battery. Even if you have to wait for a while, it will be worth it!

The best thing about charging this unit is that you won’t feel like a criminal hiding your vibrator while it’s charging so no one can see it. Unless your roommate owns the same one, she wouldn’t suspect this cutesy gadget because of the safe and sleek design. Ideally, you place the charging base on a flat surface and simply rest the unit on the base without much embarrassment because the rabbit ears in the Form 2 don’t look at all like those in conventional vibrators.

Are There Any Flaws?

Like most gadgets, there is a drawback to using the Form 2, and unfortunately, this has a lot to do with the way the motor shifts from one vibration pattern to another. Sometimes, the vibrations move closer to the base of the toy rather than the tips of the ears. This can frustrating, especially when you’re so into it and you feel that the vibrations are gradually diminishing or moving away from the spot touching your clitoris. The manufacturers claim that some units have this flaw and would gladly replace yours if you see this defect in the Form 2 you bought.

In summary, I recommend this product for anyone who wants a cute but effective clitoral vibrator that gives out as much vibration power as traditional vibrators.

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Falling in love never grows old. Regardless of your age, a new romance softens the hardest of hearts and awakens long lost regions of the soul.

Clinical psychologist and couples therapist Ayala Pines reflects on the significance love plays in our lives:

Does romantic love ever become a lower priority for people?

I don’t think so. Romantic love is especially important for men and women in midlife. A number of women in their fifties find the great love of their lives. Forty- and fifty-year-old men are connecting to the female side of their personalities and long for greater intimacy with their partners. Even if your sex drive goes down (due to a decline in sex hormones), there is no reason why romantic love should have a lower priority at this age.

How can a couple rekindle a relationship?

When the love in a relationship dies completely, no amount of rekindling will help. But if a few embers are still smoldering, try and inject some adrenaline (the elixir of love) into the relationship by taking a trip abroad, hiking, taking a dance class or going on a spiritual retreat. Couples therapy can also help.

Why do you feel one of the best opportunities for personal growth is within the context of a romantic relationship?

We’ve all been in situations where the things that attract us most in the beginning of a relationship become a great source of stress later on. She loved his sense of humor but later complains they can’t hold a serious conversation, or he was attracted to her sensitivity but complains later that she is too sensitive. If you can control your urge to withdraw when things get tough — a great challenge and opportunity for growth — you can give each other what you need most (or complete the unfinished emotional business of your childhood), and also grow in the direction you need as an individual.

When the love in a relationship dies completely, no amount of rekindling will help. But if a few embers are still smoldering, try and inject some adrenaline (the elixir of love) into the relationship by taking a trip abroad, hiking, taking a dance class or going on a spiritual retreat. Couples therapy can also help.

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The lovers are crazy by tasteofomi

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On to the reviews:

Vibrators

• PicoBong Koa Ring by Nuts4Belle
• PicoBong Kiki by buzzvibe
• Evolved Maui by Girl Deviante
• LELO Lyla by Kitty Stryker
• FixSation by buzzvibe
• Hidden Treasure by Red Vinyl Kitty
• Wild Orchid by Karen Blue
• Vibratex Violet by Amber from Scarlet’s Letter
• JimmyJane Little Chroma by Female GSpot
• Jenna’s Velvet Jewels Royal by S. Elle

Dildos

• E-glass Screamer by Mistress Kay
• Vixen Creations VixSkin Randy by Toys in Love
• Tantus Hank by Bzzingbee
• Tantus Flurry by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Fleshlight Freaks Alien by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• Tantus O2 Cush by Navigator
• Tantus Super Soft Adam by ScarlettSeraph
• Doc Johnston Vac-U-Lock Classic Dildo 8 Inch by BashfulBabe
• Dotted Delight by Kisses and Kinks

Anal Toys

• Intermediate Anal Pleasure Kit by Mistress Kay
• Tantus Advanced Anal Beads by ScarlettSeraph
• Crystal Delights Plug by LucyLemonade

Sleeves, Rings, & etc.

• LELO Insignia Oden by Dr. Ruthie

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Pink Water by Karen Blue
• Earthly Body Candle by Beanfiddler
• GiveLubes Premium Aqua Gel by Nymphomaniac Ness

BDSM/Fetish

• Babeland Bondage Tape by Nuts4Belle
• Door Jam Cuffs by ScarlettSeraph

Adult Books/Games

• Fantasy Affairs Board Game by Mistress Kay
• Best Bondage Erotica 2012 by Kitty Stryker
• Sex Invitations by Mistress Kay
• Sex Pot: The Marijuana Lover’s Guide to Getting It On by Kayla

Adult DVDs & Porn

• Dirty Movie Deadline by Karen Blue
• Good Black And White Hippy Sex by J.D. Bauchery
• Watch Me Play 2 by Ginger Leigh
• Spider-Man XXX – A Porn Parody by J.D. Bauchery
• Belladonna: Sexual Explorer (Disc 1) by Ginger Leigh
• Cafe Flesh by J.D. Bauchery

Lingerie

• Pink and Black Plaid Hooded Hottie Costume by Bitchy Babe
• Strappy Romper by True Pleasures

Miscellaneous

• RodeoH by Karen Blue
• Bound By Diamonds by Midnight Boudoir

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The Little Chroma is a standout among the wide array of luxury sex toys from Jimmyjane. Some use this vibrator as a clitoral massager while some use it as they would any other dildo. Wondering why this product is so popular? Here’s a list of the things I like and dislike about the Little Chroma.

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