2
Nov


As a sex therapist, I’m frequently asked how to create good sex. I often answer, “Why not be more ambitious — how about creatinggreat sex?”

By good sex, most people mean a good “performance.” And screaming orgasms, like in porn films.

While good sex gives us the satisfaction of doing it right, great sex provides the deeper pleasure of losing our self-consciousness. Rather than focusing on a few well-known erogenous zones, you focus on the entire erotic experience, which is diffuse and unpredictable.

Instead of being limited to physical presence, great sex involves emotional presence. This requires not only two bodies, but two souls. For some people, that means lots of eye contact; for others, endless kissing or wordless communication — but communication nevertheless and plenty of it. Great sex is not for people who are uncomfortable getting really close.

In fact, whereas good sex may be about proving who you are, great sex is about forgetting who you are — forgetting your ideas about masculinity or femininity, your desire to look good, maintain your dignity or patrol the boundary between you and the other person.

So how do you create great sex instead of settling for good sex? Paradoxically, there’s no formula. It isn’t what you do during sex. It’s who you are. So great sex starts before you get into bed. It starts when you become less anxious about being a real man or real woman.

It starts when you stop worrying about being a good lover and start wanting to be a good partner — someone who creates the right environment and invites a companion on an erotic journey. It starts when you realize that concerns about contraception, STDs, wanting a glass of water, or going to the bathroom aren’t a disruption of sex, they’re part of sex.

Great sex starts when you look at your partner and say, “Here I am, come with me. I don’t know where we’re going, but we can’t do anything wrong. After all, it’s sex.”Great sex.

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17
Aug


People should try having sex early in the morning instead of trying to shoehorn lovemaking into the end of a long, trying workday, suggests sex and couples counselor Eleanor Hamilton, 90.

Hamilton, who hung out her shingle in Manhattan in the early ’70s, celebrated her 90thbirthday yesterday by continuing to dispense motherly advice on sex and intimacy through the Pt. Reyes Light, a Marin County, Calif., newspaper which has carried her column since the mid-’80s.

Hamilton sees how harried and busy couples are these days, and knows how tough it is to maintain interest in a fulfilling sexual relationship. “I think you need to focus fully and shut out the rest of the world for good sex,” she says. “You need to literally go someplace, where you know there will be no telephone, and no interruptions.”

Take advantage of hours when your energy level is at its peak, she adds.

“The more appreciative you are of the other person, the better your sex life will be,” says Hamilton. “In the business world, people get torn down all day long; it’s wonderful to come home and have someone that’s there especially for you. My husband used to always bring me breakfast in bed and that was just a delight to me.”

Hamilton feels that a relationship goes dead when people lose their passion for each other. A relationships with no passion leaves both men and women ripe for an affair. “So many people stop listening to each other in relationships and that’s what erodes intimacy.”

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4
May


What adventures should you get your playmate interested in? Well, we’ll tell you

For starters, we’ll tell you how planning your encounters ahead of time will spice up your relationship. We’ll also tell you how to get the conditions right for a hot night.

You’ve probably seen ads for “herbal Viagra” in various forms. We’ll debunk the erroneous claims while presenting some herbs that might help. We’ll also let you know about prescription drugs that might be turning your libido into a wet noodle.

Is your spouse around? No? Great, ’cause we’re going to tell you how to use masturbation to improve your sexual responsiveness.

When it’s time to get together, we’ll tell you how to use porn to get the ball rolling. We explain some techniques for better oral sex, as well as some sex toys you might want to try.

Men, why should we stop with one orgasm? We’ll tell you how to become multi-orgasmic in just a few short weeks: an editorial gift from MyPrimeTime that lasts a lifetime. Aye, she’ll like it too.

And just for fun, take our quiz to determine what kind of sexual animal you are now. Maybe you’re a lion lying down with the lambs.

So go ahead: plunge right in. Er, click where it feels right. I mean … ah, just read the stories already. Your better sex life is about to start, you lucky, lucky reader.

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