2
May


You probably have sex for many different reasons. And depending on your mood, circumstances, relationship and other factors, you probably want different things from sex at different times.

Are you aware of this? Do you change your sexual activity to get what you want from it?

If you want to feel warm and close, for example, agreeing to hang from the chandeliers might lead to turning off in the middle of sex. Similarly, if you’ve been bossed around at work all week, warm and romantic sex may simply feel too controlled. A raunchy video, nasty language, or creative roleplay may appeal much more.

People often have sex for reasons they don’t like to admit: to feel like a real man or real woman, to feel normal or competent, to keep a partner from straying (or to disguise the fact that they’re straying), to escape from problems or cure insomnia, even to avoid talking about something serious (“Oh honey, let’s not fight. Come to bed”).

The point isn’t that some reasons are better than others, but rather that couples sometimes have very different agendas for their sex. The criticism that can follow (“Why are you so uptight?” “Why must you be so kinky?”) is often hurtful rather than productive.

Think of it this way: fast food and luxurious dinners both have their place. But trying to get a gourmet experience from McDonalds or a quick bite at the Ritz will lead to disappointment and conflict. The problem isn’t with Big Macs or canap├ęs, it’s with trying to get something from a place that can’t give it to you.

If you’re feeling frustrated about the sex you and your mate have, ask yourself what you want from sex, and then ask if the sex you’re creating could satisfy those needs. If not, it’s time to do something else. Experiment with new things, stop doing what you don’t want to, ask your partner to change, or all of the above.

Just don’t blame sex. It’s there to serve you.

To get more of what you want in bed, remember:

  • “I don’t want to” is a sufficient reason to say no.
  • Sexual experimentation isn’t right or wrong. It’s either attractive or uninteresting at this time with this partner.
  • Talk with your mate to discover reasons you each have for lovemaking that are compatible.

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30
Jul


660974 sensual piercing The Difference Between an Orgasm and a G Spot OrgasmFor a woman, there are some different kinds of orgasms. Some women are able to have an orgasm from breast stimulation, and some can have one by rubbing their legs together in just the right way. However, the most common options for an orgasm are through stimulation of the clitoris or the G spot. For most women, the orgasms that they have are clitoral orgasms. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with these, and they can be very pleasurable, but in the minds of most women who have experienced both, they don’t compare to the mind-blowing intensity of the G spot orgasm. The problem with the G spot orgasm, though, is that it can be difficult to attain.

Not everyone can find the G spot easily, and getting close to it won’t be enough to cause an orgasm in most women. If a woman can find her G spot on her own, she’ll have a better chance of showing her partner where it is and guiding him so that he can give her the pleasure that she’s looking for. While not all women are interested in a G spot orgasm and some are very content with the clitoral variety, experimentation can be fun with the right person and can lead to something that’s much more pleasurable than would otherwise be expected. Really, the main differences in the G spot and clitoral orgasms are the specific area which is stimulated and the intensity of the orgasm. Other than that, the orgasms from a biological standpoint are one and the same.

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